My father taught me to think. That "I AM" who and what I think. I can sit and listen to him for hours.What I admire most about my father is that he always makes sure his wife is the most beautiful woman in the room—even if he considers himself plain. He taught me never to settle for a D-list Pharaoh who wants more shine than his queen. That ain't royalty. Church on Wednesday

He impressed upon me that our universe begins in the mind—everything starts as a thought before it ever becomes a reality. 

He taught me that naming matters. Once, when I called someone my “best friend,” he paused and asked me, “Is that really your best?” That question changed everything. I released that relationship, and God became my best friend.

He taught me patience with myself. Our relationship was not perfect—far from it. He did things that wounded me. He was honest about that too. He would often say that people assumed the spiritual children had it easy. 

And he was determined that I would never have that story. And trust me—I don’t.

There was a season when I was so angry with him. I blocked him. 

Truly angry. But even in that, he taught me something unshakable: God shows up. 

People, fear, comfort, or images will come to test your faith, but God... 

And my father is a man of integrity. He always kept his word to me. If he said it he does it. He taught me that keeping your word is extremely important. 

I don't always listen to him, there are times when I just knew though... Follow his instructions.... 

When he speaks, it carries weight.

He also taught me not to face fear. Don't you dear hide or be afraid to say what you want or who you are. Now there's a balance, of course.

When I wanted to avoid hard truths or difficult confrontations, he made me face them. Not to break me—but to build me.

That is apart of the reason why, The Sacred Desk, was created but also shifting. 

We are no longer entertaining illusions or what's comfortable. This is a place for thinking, holy courage, truths of the mature, and co-creating with God. 

The Sacred Desk is where wisdom resides, faith meets manifestation, where thought becomes alignment, and where you learn to stand—unbowed.

Our boardroom isn’t defined by glass walls or polished tables—it’s defined by prayer, purpose, and divine alignment. 

Leadership here is not just about hitting metrics or executing plans; it’s about co-creating with God, partnering with the ultimate CEO to bring vision to life.

Co-creation is active. It’s not simply asking God to bless what you’ve already decided—it’s inviting Him into every plan, every step, and every decision. 

As Proverbs 16:3 reminds us: “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.”

1. Vision Alignment

The Sacred Desk: Define the vision with God, not just yourself. Your goals should align with eternal significance, not just personal or business gain.

Bezos: “Customer Obsession” & “Think Big” — Bezos emphasizes long-term vision and obsessing over the customer. Leaders must envision bold futures and work relentlessly toward them.

Comparison: Both stress clarity of purpose and thinking beyond the short-term. The difference is the source of guidance—Bezos relies on market data and customer focus, while co-creation relies on divine guidance paired with human initiative.

2. Leveraging Gifts / Talent

The Sacred Desk: Use your God-given gifts in partnership with His guidance. Steward your unique abilities to honor the vision.

Bezos: “Hire and Develop the Best” & “Insist on the Highest Standards” — Bezos invests in talent and expects people to operate at their highest potential.

Comparison: Both recognize the value of human talent. Co-creation adds the spiritual dimension: it’s not just about skills, but about aligning those skills with a higher purpose.

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3. Listening and Learning

The Sacred Desk: Practice disciplined listening—quiet reflection to hear God’s direction and adjust plans as necessary.

Bezos: “Learn and Be Curious” & “Have Backbone; Disagree and Commit” — Bezos values curiosity, debate, and learning from multiple sources before making decisions.

Comparison: Both emphasize listening and adjusting, but co-creation focuses on spiritual discernment, whereas Bezos focuses on intellectual and analytical input.

4. Execution with Flexibility

The Sacred Desk: Execute plans faithfully but remain flexible; setbacks may be part of God’s plan.

Bezos: “Bias for Action” & “Dive Deep” — Bezos promotes rapid execution and digging into the details. Failure is part of the innovation cycle, and learning quickly is key.

Comparison: Both value action and adjustment. Co-creation emphasizes trust in God’s timing and alignment over personal control, while Bezos emphasizes rapid iteration and ownership.

5. Celebrate Wins / Gratitude

The Sacred Desk: Celebrate progress, giving thanks for divine guidance and acknowledging every step forward.

Bezos: “Deliver Results” & “Frugality” — Bezos focuses more on results than celebration; metrics and outcomes drive recognition.

Comparison: Co-creation adds a reflective, spiritual layer to leadership: success isn’t just measured by KPIs but by alignment with God’s purpose. Bezos celebrates impact but in purely operational terms.

6. Ultimate Takeaway

The Sacred Desk: Leadership is a partnership with God—combining strategy, faith, and obedience. Legacy is eternal, and influence is multiplied through alignment with divine purpose.

Bezos: Leadership is about relentless focus, customer obsession, and innovation. Legacy is built through scale, operational excellence, and culture.

Synthesis: Co-creation leadership and Bezos-style leadership share principles of vision, talent, learning, execution, and accountability—but co-creation adds a spiritual axis. In other words: Bezos builds empires; co-creation builds both impact and eternal significance.

Celebrate Wins, Big and Small

Success isn’t measured only in outcomes—it’s measured in alignment, obedience, and impact. 

Every breakthrough, restored relationship, or idea that bears fruit is worthy of gratitude. Celebrating keeps hearts humble, spirits aligned, and momentum flowing.

Scripture Reference: “Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us.” — Ephesians 3:20

When God said in Genesis 2:18, “It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a help meet for him,” He was not describing a maid, a doormat, or a woman with no voice.

The word “help meet” has been misinterpreted for centuries, watered down, weaponized, and used to diminish the very women God created to carry wisdom, strategy, influence, and spiritual insight. But when we look at the original meaning, the picture is completely different — and far more powerful.

Let’s break this down the right way — Hebraically, biblically, spiritually, and with a whole lot of clarity.

The Original Text: Ezer Kenegdo

Genesis 2:18 says:

“It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.”

But the Hebrew phrase there is ezer kenegdo — which does not mean servant.
It doesn’t mean runner-up.
It doesn’t mean downgraded sidekick in a dusty apron.

Ezer = Divine Help

The word ezer is used 21 times in the Old Testament…
And almost every time, it refers to God Himself coming through with supernatural, military-strength help.

So when God called woman an ezer, He wasn’t calling her a maid… 

He was calling her a warrior-level, God-backed, destiny-shaping force of help.

Kenegdo = Equal, Facing Him

This doesn’t mean behind him.
This doesn’t mean under him.
This doesn’t mean trailing behind like a lost child.

It means equal strength, face-to-face, one who stands opposite and complements, bringing what he does not have.

The Misuse of the Word Has Harmed Women

Modern culture — especially some churches — turned “help meet” into:

spiritually muted

But God never called women to shrink so a man could feel bigger.  He formed her to enhance, amplify, complete, and bring divine strategy to the table.

A real help meet doesn’t lose herself to support a man.
She brings her full self, her full power, her full anointing — and the right man welcomes it.

A Help Meet Carries Authority in the Realm of the Spirit

Every marriage has two realms:

What happens naturally

What’s happening spiritually

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” — Hebrews 13:4 (NIV)

Recently, I stumbled across two viral clips that stopped me in my tracks.

In one, David Banner said something powerful—he couldn’t do business with a man who cheats on his wife. He said if you’ll cheat on her, you’ll cheat me too. Integrity is important.

Then, I saw another clip—Bow Wow bragging about not paying child support. He said he gives his daughter $1,000 a month and her mother can “just borrow money” if she needs more. And what really floored me? The comment section. Folks praising the child’s mother because all her baby daddies have great things to say about her.

Wait. All her baby daddies?

Where did we go wrong?

How did we get here—where “baby mama” is an entire status, and marriage isn’t even part of the conversation anymore?

When did we stop wanting marriage?

Let me say this plainly: Dear Black Men, you deserve to be husbands too. Stop giving your seeds away to women you are not married to. 

Therefore, marriage should be a requirement for a woman to have your children.

I remember years ago, I had this edgy idea for a podcast called The Other Woman. It was supposed to be a play on words—me giving my “different perspective” as a woman. I thought it was clever. Bold.

But my husband? He wasn’t amused.

He looked at me, disappointment heavy in his eyes, and said: “You’re a wife.”

He reminded me that title carries weight. He explained what “side chick” really meant—not just socially, but spiritually. It wasn’t just slang. It was dishonor. It was planting seeds of chaos into a culture already drowning in it.

And whew—I felt that. He was right.

I shut that idea down. Quick.

Because I realized: I didn’t want to be another woman adding noise to a culture that’s already lost its way.

Look around. We’ve normalized side chicks, sneaky links, and situationships.

We’ve glamorized baby mama drama and soft life fantasies over strong, steady marriages.

Nobody’s asking real questions anymore like:

• What’s the right age to date with marriage in mind?

• Why don’t we value legacy and stability the way other cultures do?

Here’s the truth we don’t like to face: You cannot build a lasting legacy without marriage.

Genesis 2:24 says:
"That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh."

Marriage isn’t just a religious tradition. It’s a covenant. A foundation for legacy, wealth, children, and community.

But right now? We’re trading marriage for temporary likes, commitment for short term clout.

Our grandparents weren’t perfect—but they still believed in marriage.
They might’ve married twice, three times—but marriage still meant something.
Being called husband or wife was honorable.

I can tell you this: Marriage with the right person is like an organization with the right team
When one is thriving, we’re all thriving.
When he’s struggling, we all feel it. And work to make it better together.

That’s covenant. That’s unity. That’s what Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV) means:
"Two are better than one… If either of them falls, one can help the other up."

We’re in this together.

But these days? The culture is flipped upside down.

There was a time when it was embarrassing for a woman to even be associated with someone else’s man. Women had an unspoken code—you didn’t mess with your friends husband or boyfriend, or another woman’s marriage or her household.

Now? It’s competition.
It’s “may the best woman win.”
It’s “if she can’t keep him, that’s her problem.”

Some women even brag about taking someone’s man.
Sis - be careful with that I’ve seen women shamelessly push their men toward others like they’re handing over worn-out shoes. They are tired so they set you up for the okee doke.

It’s sad.
But it’s also dangerous.

If we don’t course-correct, we’ll raise a generation that thinks family is obsolete and marriage is unnecessary.

But here’s the truth:
Marriage still matters. Covenant still matters. Respect still matters. Love still matters.

It’s time we grow up.
It’s time we honor marriage again.

Teach our daughters that being a wife isn’t about a ring or a title—but about purpose, legacy, and covering.

Teach our sons that manhood isn’t measured by how many women they can collect—but by how well they can lead, protect, and provide for one woman and their family.

Marriage isn’t outdated. It’s God’s design.

"He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord." — Proverbs 18:22 (NKJV)

And we need that favor again.

It’s time to return to covenant.