Baby, I love you… But Every man Should Have His Own Wife - Marriage Is My License to Be Wild With My Husband. I'm My Husband's Side Piece

Let’s be real. Super real.

No more baby mamas and baby daddies. If that’s your story now, take responsibility and handle your business — but people of God, it’s time to level up. If you’re struggling mentally or emotionally, get some therapy.

It’s time we raise the standard and become husbands and wives for the sake of the next generation. No more showing up to the cookout with a new “plus one” every summer. Little Tae and Keisha are watching us, and they need to see what covenant looks like.

I want my kids, nieces, and nephews to grow up with marriage as the norm, not the exception. That is where the favor of God lives.

I just found out one of my god-babies had a child, and he's a father now, but didn’t marry her. I never imagined my baby would be someone baby daddy. And his friend who is married their self encouraging him not to marry her. She's a good woman, why not?

My heart sank. We can — and must — do better.

Is there a limit to how freaky a man is willing to be… with his wife?

God literally said:
👉 “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” — Hebrews 13:4 (NKJV)

I have brothers, cousins, and male friends. And from the way some of y’all sing, text, joke, and act behind closed doors — you're not shy. You're not vanilla. But you're conservative with your wife.

You're nasty.
You're bold.
You're loud.
You're unfiltered.

"In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church." Ephesians 5:28-29

You are to love your wife's body as your own. God says take ownership.

But you only bring that energy to the side piece.

You write poems or sexting the girl who’s not cooking for you.
You drop freaky lyrics on TikTok but go silent when your wife wants to try something new. Or you to talk nasty to her.

This is written in the bible:

My love, my bride,

You have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes, with the sparkle of your beauty.

Your love is more delightful than wine, and the fragrance of you more than any spice.

How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are like doves.

Your lips drop sweetness as the honeycomb; milk and honey are under your tongue.

The fragrance of your garments is like the scent of Lebanon.
You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.

You have captivated me, my bride.

Your love is more precious than silver, sweeter than honey.
I long to climb your palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.

Your stature is like a tall palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit.

I am my beloved’s, and my desire is for you.

Come away with me, my beautiful one; the winter is past, the rains are over and gone.

The flowers appear on the earth, and the time of singing has come.

Forever yours,
Your Beloved

This is written from the heart of God....

You give passionate, creative, wild energy to women who didn’t vow to love you in sickness and health — but your wife gets the routine, robotic, barely-there performance.

Sir, explain that.

Marriage is supposed to be the legal right to have fun without guilt.

It’s the green light from heaven to explore, express, and experience pleasure in its purest form.

"Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." (KJV) - 1 Corinthians 7:2

So why not make your wife's fantasy come alive?

God didn’t say the marriage bed is “safe.”

He said it’s undefiled (Hebrews 13:4). That means free from shame, judgment, or restriction — as long as it's consensual and sacred.

But somehow, sex within marriage has become bland, silent, or even taboo — while sex outside of it is glorified, sung about, and celebrated.

You know what’s crazy?

When a wife wants to be sexually free with her husband, she’s often called “too much.”

But if she keeps it quiet and conservative, she's accused of not being “exciting enough.”

Which is it, sir?

Because the truth is: I didn’t marry you to play it safe. I married you to be sexually free.
Not to sit on the sidelines while you go live your freaky little double life.

Let me say this with love and confidence:

💥 I am not a whore.
💥 I want to be a whore for MY man — and that should be celebrated, not questioned.

There are wives out here fantasizing in silence.
Wanting more.
Craving connection.
But afraid of being judged for having desires.

And there are husbands out here craving excitement — but too afraid to unlock that door with their wife, because they think “good girls” don’t ask for that.

Stop that.

Your wife can love God and still want the lights on.

She can pray in tongues and still want to moan your name.

She can lead Bible study and still want to be flipped, pinned, and kissed in places that don’t get daylight.

You married her.
So give her the same energy you give in your fantasies, your songs, and your side texts.

Be the one who unlocks her deepest desires.
Be the one who asks her, “What do you want?”
Be the one who says, “Let’s try it. Together.”

“A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach.” (KJV) --1 Timothy 3:2